Behind The Scenes - The
Society Of Curse - The Life Of Transgenders.
( A Journey towards
humanity)
Its been quiet some days( 1 year)
from my previous company. Just assimilating the memories of going to Mahindra
world city. I generally used to catch 9.20 Train from Perungalathur to Paranur,
Mahindra City.
I have taken this very heavy topic to
scribble something which had heavy impact of seeing very bizaare things in
front of me.
Yes it is about "Transgenders".
These are the thoughts rolled in
mind when I traveled in local train to my office......that time, just tried
maximum, putting it in words and narrating now....
Most of the days, during travel
through local train to mahindra city office, some transgenders boarded the
train. They started asking for money. Some are very decent, if you dont give,
they dont disturb, some trouble. People
mostly or literally everyone try to avoid them,
giggle at them, tease them, shout them, etc. I really dont know why it
happens.
Some questions piled in my mind
like express trains collide straight to
straight, bogies accumulate top of each other. Really tough to immediately
decide which one takes priority. Then
with cool and calmness, started to
decode their minds, then slowly assembled the questions/words accordingly.
Few questions to all of us. Do we
do the same to differently abled people? No. Because we understand, its God's
mistake or mistake in human lifesyle, etc. This is different debate. Often,I
ask this question, who believe in God, Why mistakes happen during creation?Why
the difference? Manufacturing defect happens very few in a whole lot. But then
he is God................
But no one gives convincing answer.
Probably they defer the question, adjust saying its "Karma" or
Kurma...Whatever it is. It is not justified. But one thing, I myself justify
God, that he has created humanity to handle this. But poor fellow we are
stumbling. We treat them equally,
understand them, some help them. But on the whole society understands they are'nt handicapped in abilities, skills,
talent, etc except physically. Thats the reason we, the society has moved from saying them
handicpped to Physically challenged to now "Differently Abled" which
is a good sign.
But the critical question here, why we do
bizaar things to Transgenders?
Ask
some questions to ourself. Who is responsible for their genetic dis-order? From
childhood, they are quiet normal like us, they wanna live like us. They have
feelings like us? They have dreams, aspirations, skills, talents like us. One
life to live....But is to blame? is their anything they have done to ruin/be
themselves. Do they opted for it? Do they went in wrong lines? Even we atleast
feel pity for AIDS patient.
I really fail to understand, what
makes them different except their gender? Why society is failing to understand,
its quiet true that third gender exists and we need to recognize, create
congenial enviornment to them?
Its is similar to male, female, a third
one. All we do is create some myth stories in the name of God and try to
isolate. We have them byproducts. They live sorry cry in cradles of deserted
place, the outskirts(cruel nature of society). The precipitated land reserved.
Hide themselves. Hence they truoble
us differently and demand money for their living. Expelled from family. Why
family desert them, its due to social agony they might face, giggles, etc.
Expelled from Society, no job, no platform for showing thier skills, no love, no
one could understand them....But some can only truly make fun of
them.....Media is ruthless. The Movie comedies proved how we need to look at
them, we laugh at them. What is quiet disguisting is we have few of them coming
to screens to make fun of themselves to earn a living...Oh its quiet nasty
society similar to women give skinny ads/movies to get money but oneside people
strive for women rights. Hence transgenders have strong agony over us.
Obvious reasons.
When I worked in Belgium on my job, I
have seen a transgender in few teams working quiet and calm. People were
treating them quiet normal, having fun. Worked like us. Simple. What different
it makes to us. Where is wrong. Just they are humans. It is our mind. Just
that. Thats it. We lack values. We lack tenacity. We lack social ethics.
Though I strongly disagree with
reservation( meaning as-of now), I full heartedly agree with Dr. Ambedkar on
reservation. Gr8 to transform the un-even society. It has paved of quiet sure
with definite tenure but not indefinite tenure. But its meaning has been
manipulated by our politicians for their own political vendetta, vote-bank.
Pathetic. Dr. Ambedkar said crystal clearly "Socially Backward"
not economically not based on caste, religion. Their is clear mis-understanding
of it.
Whatz the solution?
This will change only if government
and people join hands to bring a change.
Government should provide reservations in all categories because they
are socially backward. If they are deployed in all departments like
banks, post offices, transports- bus, railways, media(very important), IT,
airlines (pilot, airhostress, etc), etc where especially people connect with
them, It would be quiet normal then.
Create a column in all Govt database as third gender, next differently abled
count, etc. Place in certificates.
Atleast erase the caste column and
replace it.
And people's mindset would change, accept
it as routine, Creating good space for them. Respect them, recognize their
skills, talent, hidden abilities. Though we cant help them to get back our
normal life interms of gender but atleast support/help them to feel happy and
normal like us. Their are lot of things we need to learn from western culture
but its quiet disappointing we follow all wrongs. Atleast not giggle, laugh,
tease them.
We dont need to be great, not perform any
special tasks, just be candid, human...Very simple.,Needs no extra maturity,
thinking...
Nobody wants sympathy....its
all about change.
We cannot clean the park at-once,
it needs responsible youth to reach people and veteran's experience/ideas to
click.
Our society needs to be cleansed in all
directions. But lets take this perpectives, be constructive, supportive to them
atleast when we happen see them anywhere.....As we are part of it, everyone has
same amount of accountability to move the society forward...We need to build it
brick by brick...All required is, keep
your brick correctly.....Hope the day dawns better for them tomorrow atleast
and lead a dignified life.
We need brains to not only innovate
technologies. We are in deep need of ethical people to think
technologies/out-of-box ideas to change people, touch people, transform, lift
or empower society, elevate people, not for living luxurily but to live happy
with value towards everything & everyone in life...Transform lives....
Never tend to hurt anyone because
we dont know whats there in reserve(next life :-) ).................
Letz be the change to bring the
change..............
Letz be the change to
bring the change............................
Disclaimer: I am not professional
writer or born poet, just share my views or ideas with you. I just start
scribbling mostly on events that impact me around, anything and everything. Please
pardon me if the content doesn’t match yours or mistakes if any.
Endrum Natpudan,
Dhana.
